Valentine’s Week Special💕

What is Love?

Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more 😊

But seriously what is love?

In our life we come across different kinds of love i.e. love from our parents, love from our friends, love from our siblings, love from that one special person, love from our grandparents, society and the nature.

When you have lived almost three decades of your life on this planet, you get a vague sense of what love actually is. However, you still can’t pin it down to one definition.

For some it is about caring, for some it is about paying attention, maybe putting other’s need before your own, gifting expensive things, doing some acts of service. In other words, love means different to different people. No wonder the book written by Gary Chapman describing the 5 languages of love is bestselling. It was just recently that I learned that there are 5 languages of love which are mentioned in the book that is receiving gifts, doing acts of service, physical touch, exchanging words of affirmation, spending quality time each other.

There are people who feel loved when they receive gifts which shows a thoughtful gesture on their partner’s end. Some accept love that comes through helping each other in their chores. Another love expression is the words of affirmation like “I am proud of you”, “I don’t take for granted what you do for me” and “You are an amazing person, thank you for choosing to love me” makes their partner feel whole. Some feel loved when they spend quality time with each other without any distraction and being present for one another. A hug, holding hands, hand on the shoulder forms part of nonverbal love language. Although, the book heavily talked about love language between married couples, it was helpful to know how every person loves differently and accepts love differently. No two acts of love are same however we can all agree on one thing that love exist in various forms.

What I truly understand about love is accepting someone in all their forms, shapes, moods and still loving them and wanting them despite all the changes they go through. You see, every one of us is changing rather evolving every day. We are constantly shedding away our old identities and embracing new experiences of life that shapes the new us. Every day we learn something about ourselves and choose to make it a part of our own if that helps us progress. If some of us are being more mindful, we also release old habits and beliefs that no longer serve our higher self. And it is through these changes, when we accommodate, adjust, show patience and understanding towards one another believing that at the core we are all the same: people who are seeking love and ready to give love, that’s when love prevails.

Some of us experience that kind of love from our parents or from our friends or partners. And some experience that love by staying apart and loving someone from a distance. I would say that we all experience this kind of love from nature that loves us unconditionally despite our ever-changing behaviour towards it.

So, I guess that’s my kind of definition of love. Ever loving, ever giving, humbly receiving, always accepting and always wanting.